Start with where you are
Newly Diagnosed → Active Treatment → Cancer and Beyond → Caregivers →
The Person Beside the Patient
When someone you love has cancer, attention naturally turns toward the patient. But the person standing beside them is living through change, uncertainty and responsibility too.
In our story, that person has often been Patty. She was my wife before cancer, and caregiving grew around our relationship because life required it.
Waiting Isn’t Wasted
Cancer brings a special kind of waiting—the kind measured in scan results, treatment cycles and unanswered questions. We once thought those stretches were simply something to endure. Over time, we learned that life was not paused while we waited.
The Day Everything Changed
There are moments that divide life into before and after. For us, it began with three words: “You have cancer.” We remember the call, the flood of information and the instant our future suddenly looked different.
The Conversation We Couldn’t Find
After a cancer diagnosis, information is everywhere: appointments, tests, treatment options and statistics. What Patty and I could not find was an honest conversation about what living through it might actually feel like. That absence became Life Between Scans.